This has been a big topic of discussion for our family, especially with my eldest, my 11-year-old daughter, starting secondary school soon. Like many of you, I worried about the social pressures, the potential for endless scrolling, and how to keep her safe in the digital world.

Through our "In the Wild Workshops," where Laura and I connect hundreds of teenagers with nature and well-being, three observations consistently stand out:

Many kids are incredibly disconnected from nature.
They often struggle to maintain eye contact.
They find it difficult to be still or present in the moment.

Recent In the Wild Session at Secondary School

It's clear that smartphones, coupled with a lack of access to outdoor time both at home and school, bear a significant responsibility for these trends. Witnessing this firsthand has had a profound impact on me, driving our active involvement in the Smartphone FREE Childhood initiative.

A Breath of Fresh Air: Phone-Free Schools!

Thankfully, there's some fantastic news from my daughters new school! After considerable effort from our local parent community and the Smartphone FREE Warwickshire Team, they've implemented much-improved safeguarding systems for phones. Now, any phone – whether it's a basic mobile or a smartphone – brought into school must be secured in a lockable pouch. This means absolutely no access during school hours.

For my 11-year-old, who doesn't yet have a phone, this is brilliant. One of my biggest concerns about her going into secondary school was the sheer number of other kids who'd have smartphones. Knowing she's entering an environment that will largely be phone-free during the school day is a huge relief. It creates a level playing field and fosters a truly phone-free space for all students, which I believe, and the evidence shows, is incredibly beneficial. Also I am sure a huge relief for teachers, who often tell us about the endless distractions and harm smartphones cause in school.

A Teen's Honest Take: Should Kids Have Smartphones?

To gain another perspective on this modern dilemma, we recently had J, a teenager from Kenilworth School, on placement with us. As someone who has had a smartphone for a number of years, I was really keen to hear her take on it. I asked her directly: "Should I give my ten-year-old a smartphone?"

This is what she shared:

"From my own experience of receiving a phone at around the age of 12, I would advise against giving a smartphone to young children, due to their addictive nature and the damaging effects they can lead to for children growing up surrounded by technology rather than nature."

What about to a teenager?

"However, this isn’t to say giving a smartphone to young teens is a completely bad decision. With changes such as children travelling distances for school or meeting with friends as they get older, phones can become a key way of communicating. I’ve found many apps, such as Pinterest or Duolingo, interesting for artistic ideas or educational for wanting to learn new languages, and as well as this many parental controls can be placed on different apps."

What issues did you observe regarding smartphone use?

"The main issue I have found having a smartphone is how normalised, by both other children and parents, it has become for children to become so dependent and focused on their mobile devices.

I would say creating restrictions to reduce habits of spending time on phones or other devices is an important must for children to slowly get adjusted to technological devices, without being overly exposed to the addictive factors.

Unless there is an important reason for getting a phone early, children would benefit much more through real-life interactions and play. I am overall against giving children phones so early in their childhood."

Beyond the Screen: Giving Kids a Voice

It was truly insightful to hear this honest feedback from J. Her perspective, as someone who has grown up with this technology, highlights so many of the nuances of this modern dilemma. It's a powerful reminder of the impact these devices can have.

What are your thoughts on smartphones for young kids? Do J’s insights resonate with your own experiences, or do you have a different perspective? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

I am currently enjoying a smartphone FREE childhood over the summer holidays and plan to continue to do so for at least a few more years, currently considering giving her use of simple ‘brick phone’, so she can text or call if she needed to, when on her way to and from school.

For more resources on managing screen time and digital safety, visit our Smartphone FREE resources - tips for healthy habits at home and also in school too.

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